Fernando is currently living a vampire lifestyle. (That was to appease all those Twilight fans, go Team Tovar or is that supposed to be team edward???) He leaves for work around 5:30 pm and returns a bit disoriented at 8 am the next morning. After sleeping for as many hours possible, he gets ready for work/plays with the kids/shoves food in his face at around 4:30 pm to start it all over again. This started the day after Christmas.
This past Saturday, I had promised myself to take the kids to the Holiday Lights on the River Walk if they would take a nap. This promise had been made before, but broken on account a various external forces seeking to thwart obedient childrens' dreams. Against my deepest desires to send the kids to bed early, we went at 7 pm (very late for us) to the River. It was a blast. I came prepared with jackets, gloves, hats, and a baby backpack. With temperatures in the upper 60's though, I was carrying Talia and all the excess winter items. A couple hours later, we headed home for our beds. I had remembered to grab the Red Box movie we needed to return and kept contemplating picking up a new one for me to watch solo on this fine Saturday night.
AND SO THE RIPPLE BEGINS. . .
As usual, I felt a specific prompting to act in a certain manner. And like usual, I stack up all my reasons why I don't want to follow that prompting and try to make a valid case. Stupid, I know.
Problem #1: RedBox movies are $1 for one night. I knew I wouldn't return it on Monday so is the movie good enough to pay $2 for it?
MY PATHETIC RATIONALIZATION: Well, if I were to rent it from a movie store, it would totally cost more then $2 and way to go on committing to not returning it on Sunday.
Problem #2: I am already tired and it's almost 9 pm. Call it a night so you can be a happy, helping mommy for whatever the night or tomorrow brings.
MY PATHETIC RATIONALIZATION: There are a lot of clothes that need to be folded. I am sure that will take the duration of the movie to finish. Then the house will be cleaner for Sunday.
Problem #3: I am not going to take the time to download the filter for the movie, do I really want all that excess junk ie swearing or sexual content flowing into my house and head? Why don't you spend that time studying the scriptures? MY PATHETIC RATIONALIZATION: I am sure it won't be that bad. Besides I deserve a little adult down time.
Sorry prompting. . .I am just too convincing.
So I get the movie and hurry the kids home to bed. I shove the mounds of clothes into the TV room and prepare myself for the ABBA inspired musical phenom of Mama Mia. Fernando has warned me over and over and over again to keep my video critiques to myself because I am so critical and demeaning. Just ask the last innocent bystander to was forced to listen to me rip apart their family's favorite movie (that is topped by the Saving Private Ryan incident which will be remembered post post). SO lets just focus on problem #2.
May be there are many out there who can multitask with the TV on. This has never been me. It really doesn't matter the quality of programing, I will zone in instantaneously. By 2 am, the laundry was still unfinished and I was watching some Hallmark Channel Christmas Made for TV movie about Santa Claus and his need to get married to save Christmas, but the girl is an unbeliever who has a kid and obviously a poor relationship history blah blah blah. And when that was on commercial, I would flip to a movie about a coming of age love story between a 10 year old boy and an 11 year old girl who met in karate class. (this show actually had some funny elements that reminded me of my eccentric self back in the junior high days.)
Buzzing from lack of sleep, I summoned all my reason to turn off the TV and head for bead. Just then, Talia woke up hungry and sick. I fed her and soothed her the best one can with the fuzziness of late night activity and put her to bed. Then Tiago needed water and a potty break. I fell asleep around 4 and was up again to make breakfast at 6. This would have been punishment enough, but there was more.
Due to my groggy state of being, I was slow to react when it was important and overly jumpy when we could have not been. Bad combo for little kids. I barely made it on time to church in a ridiculously frumpy dress and shrug, greasy ponytail and funky clipping of the grown out bangs, a heinous lack of make up, and the familiar BO smell from one who took a rushed shower. I picked a side bench near the front.
I brought bribes for good behavior during the passing of the sacrament and that was about it. Because of my rush, I left the overly loaded church fun bag at home. I won't bore you with the minute by minute play, but instead give you the fast forward version.
Kids munching on very crumbly and noisy granola bars, Talia screaming, standing in back to listen, leave on Talia's account, go back in, wrestle with Tiago for Talia's car seat, try several ways to make fire shoot from my eyes to show Tiago visually I mean business (no luck), a sweet mother of 3 who just had extensive knee surgery and a car accident struggle up to my bench and offer assistance (clue one that you are causing a pretty big scene), leave again. . .more screaming, more bribes, more talking about good church behavior, more BO. Strangers asking to help (clue two you look like a show) SO ENDS SACRAMENT MEETING.
I talked, practiced, convince Tiago that nursery was good and only for one more week. Then asked Mia to sit with him so I could play the piano for the next two hours as my calling requires. Mia refuses to sit with him, Tiago refused to sit with class, Talia screaming, me running back and forth murmuring ridiculous angry comments under my breath, being asked repeatedly by several other church members if everything was ok, leader gets a replacement and I try to leave.
Tiago at this point starts screaming about how much he wants to go to nursery, Talia still screaming for her bed, Mia won't get up from the middle of the bench and I tried to focus on vanishing.
The whole way home I talked about my disappointments and how they could have been better when I realized something.
My ripple I started just complicated a normal event. I could have been well rested and therefore ready for church with such helpful ammunition as coloring supplies and interesting books for sacrament meeting. I could have sat in the back so as only to have the dividing wall notice my up and down and up and down and in and out and in and out scene. I could have asked for a piano sub so I could sit with Tiago and help him feel safe in church. I could have accepted the countless offers to help with Talia and there by free myself in order to help my kids. BUT I didn't and I am to blame.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Christmas Card Expanded Edition
Merry Christmas Friends and Family. We hope that the season has been at least as eventful as ours has been. Time has flown by this year, but as the saying goes "time flies when your having fun." If you have a little time for some fun, enjoy our year in review. If time is of the essence, you can skip to the highlighted links to our previous applicable posts or jump down to the little video clip to enjoy.
Captain Doctor Fernando Ramiro Tovar:
He has accomplished a lot this year. Most notably was his successful completion of medical school which brought us to Texas (an accomplishment in itself with two cars to drive and only two drivers). Once in Texas, he in processed whilst convincing me to buy our home. In typical Fernando fashion, he hit the ground running and hasn't stopped since. Though confidence has never been an issue with him, he has increased in his capacity to help make life for hospitalized people all the better. He even attempted an operation on Tiago. With all his first year general surgery intern free time, he serves his family and church. Fantastic example of fortitude and strength of character.
President Faust said it well in a conference address Oct 02:
At times all of us are called upon to stretch ourselves and do more than we think we can. I’m reminded of President Theodore Roosevelt’s quip, “I am only an average man but, by George, I work harder at it than the average man.” We develop our talents first by thinking we can. We are all familiar with the parable of the talents. The Master gave one five talents, another two, and another one, “every man according to his several ability. …
“Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents.
“And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two.
“But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money.”
After a long time the Master asked for an accounting. The one who had received five talents reported that he had gained an additional five talents and received the commendation, “Thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things.” He that received two talents gained two other talents and also received the promise of a greater dominion. . . .The Lord entrusts all of His servants, including every priesthood holder, with spiritual talents. The Lord, who endows us with these talents, tells us: “I believe you can. I believe you can.” While we are not all equal in experience, aptitude, and strength, we have different opportunities to employ these spiritual gifts, and we will all be accountable for the use of the gifts and opportunities given to us.
Mother of 3 amazing children who attempts greatness at homemaking and makes dang good pumpkin cheesecake muffins Rachelle:
By the world's standards, Fernando's title sounds more impressive, but it isn't about comparison (or the fact the the muffins are from a really good recipe). I have tried to think about accomplishments I have done that don't include my family members and their accomplishments and came up with nothing. That isn't to say I haven't been doing a lot, but that I am in mom mode which has a wonder all its own. Since you can read the other family members snippets, I will just say I did single handedly move us into our house (quite literal at times since I had to nurse Talia while commanding the movers), and taken to my new home base of San Antonio. I also revamped my hair do (it is in desperate need of an redo), and have been busting a groove at the gym in my new favorite, Zoomba. Sunday's I often make it through sacrament meeting successfully and single when Fernando's on call and spend the next two hours playing the piano in primary. I am ever striving to become the person this world needs me to be and often reflect on Elder Holland's April 07 conference address:
"So, brothers and sisters, in this long eternal quest to be more like our Savior, may we try to be “perfect” men and women in at least this one way now—by offending not in word, or more positively put, by speaking with a new tongue, the tongue of angels. Our words, like our deeds, should be filled with faith and hope and charity, the three great Christian imperatives so desperately needed in the world today. With such words, spoken under the influence of the Spirit, tears can be dried, hearts can be healed, lives can be elevated, hope can return, confidence can prevail. I pray that my words, even on this challenging subject, will be encouraging to you, not discouraging, that you can hear in my voice that I love you, because I do. More importantly, please know that your Father in Heaven loves you and so does His Only Begotten Son. When They speak to you—and They will—it will not be in the wind, nor in the earthquake, nor in the fire, but it will be with a voice still and small, a voice tender and kind. It will be with the tongue of angels. May we all rejoice in the thought that when we say edifying, encouraging things unto the least of these, our brethren and sisters and little ones, we say it unto God."
Imaginative problem solving artist,playwright/producer Mia
I don't say often enough how amazed I am at this girl. She is captivating. She has dealt with some major life changes and did if with style. Most of our family fun times are a direct result of some good idea she has had. Recently, a new tradition was created because Mia wanted to share her new knowledge about the First Thanksgiving with everyone. End product, a fantastic play.
Man Child who's connected to his softer side Tiago:
Tiago continues to be all man. Whether he is flying about like a jet or pushing some toy vehicle, he has energy that is non-stop. He misses his best friend Mia while she's at school, but at least he still has is Talia to kiss.
No failure to thrive, inquisitive sweet Talia
Beginning at birth, Talia has shown her ability to do more than survive. Lucky for her since she is surrounded by adoring and mauling fans (Mia and Tiago aren't the only culprits). Her calm demeanor is interrupted by bursts of enthusiasm for food, everyday objects such as pens or paper, and when she's been ignored for too long. The no teeth thing doesn't stop her from wanted to try everything on our plates. We love her in our family.
CHRISTMAS VIDEO FUN:
Captain Doctor Fernando Ramiro Tovar:
He has accomplished a lot this year. Most notably was his successful completion of medical school which brought us to Texas (an accomplishment in itself with two cars to drive and only two drivers). Once in Texas, he in processed whilst convincing me to buy our home. In typical Fernando fashion, he hit the ground running and hasn't stopped since. Though confidence has never been an issue with him, he has increased in his capacity to help make life for hospitalized people all the better. He even attempted an operation on Tiago. With all his first year general surgery intern free time, he serves his family and church. Fantastic example of fortitude and strength of character.
President Faust said it well in a conference address Oct 02:
At times all of us are called upon to stretch ourselves and do more than we think we can. I’m reminded of President Theodore Roosevelt’s quip, “I am only an average man but, by George, I work harder at it than the average man.” We develop our talents first by thinking we can. We are all familiar with the parable of the talents. The Master gave one five talents, another two, and another one, “every man according to his several ability. …
“Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents.
“And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two.
“But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money.”
After a long time the Master asked for an accounting. The one who had received five talents reported that he had gained an additional five talents and received the commendation, “Thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things.” He that received two talents gained two other talents and also received the promise of a greater dominion. . . .The Lord entrusts all of His servants, including every priesthood holder, with spiritual talents. The Lord, who endows us with these talents, tells us: “I believe you can. I believe you can.” While we are not all equal in experience, aptitude, and strength, we have different opportunities to employ these spiritual gifts, and we will all be accountable for the use of the gifts and opportunities given to us.
Mother of 3 amazing children who attempts greatness at homemaking and makes dang good pumpkin cheesecake muffins Rachelle:
By the world's standards, Fernando's title sounds more impressive, but it isn't about comparison (or the fact the the muffins are from a really good recipe). I have tried to think about accomplishments I have done that don't include my family members and their accomplishments and came up with nothing. That isn't to say I haven't been doing a lot, but that I am in mom mode which has a wonder all its own. Since you can read the other family members snippets, I will just say I did single handedly move us into our house (quite literal at times since I had to nurse Talia while commanding the movers), and taken to my new home base of San Antonio. I also revamped my hair do (it is in desperate need of an redo), and have been busting a groove at the gym in my new favorite, Zoomba. Sunday's I often make it through sacrament meeting successfully and single when Fernando's on call and spend the next two hours playing the piano in primary. I am ever striving to become the person this world needs me to be and often reflect on Elder Holland's April 07 conference address:"So, brothers and sisters, in this long eternal quest to be more like our Savior, may we try to be “perfect” men and women in at least this one way now—by offending not in word, or more positively put, by speaking with a new tongue, the tongue of angels. Our words, like our deeds, should be filled with faith and hope and charity, the three great Christian imperatives so desperately needed in the world today. With such words, spoken under the influence of the Spirit, tears can be dried, hearts can be healed, lives can be elevated, hope can return, confidence can prevail. I pray that my words, even on this challenging subject, will be encouraging to you, not discouraging, that you can hear in my voice that I love you, because I do. More importantly, please know that your Father in Heaven loves you and so does His Only Begotten Son. When They speak to you—and They will—it will not be in the wind, nor in the earthquake, nor in the fire, but it will be with a voice still and small, a voice tender and kind. It will be with the tongue of angels. May we all rejoice in the thought that when we say edifying, encouraging things unto the least of these, our brethren and sisters and little ones, we say it unto God."
Imaginative problem solving artist,playwright/producer Mia
I don't say often enough how amazed I am at this girl. She is captivating. She has dealt with some major life changes and did if with style. Most of our family fun times are a direct result of some good idea she has had. Recently, a new tradition was created because Mia wanted to share her new knowledge about the First Thanksgiving with everyone. End product, a fantastic play.
Man Child who's connected to his softer side Tiago:
Tiago continues to be all man. Whether he is flying about like a jet or pushing some toy vehicle, he has energy that is non-stop. He misses his best friend Mia while she's at school, but at least he still has is Talia to kiss.
No failure to thrive, inquisitive sweet Talia
Beginning at birth, Talia has shown her ability to do more than survive. Lucky for her since she is surrounded by adoring and mauling fans (Mia and Tiago aren't the only culprits). Her calm demeanor is interrupted by bursts of enthusiasm for food, everyday objects such as pens or paper, and when she's been ignored for too long. The no teeth thing doesn't stop her from wanted to try everything on our plates. We love her in our family.
CHRISTMAS VIDEO FUN:
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Waking Ned Devine
Ok, this post isn't a tribute to that movie, but just to the good idea that came from random blog hopping the other night. To share how removed I was from the people I happened to blog into: my sister's friend's brother's-in-law "Angel Baby" friend's links. Angel Babies are children who passed away at birth or very young. My sister brought up the site while I was talking to her the other day and for some reason I visited their site and other similar families who have suffered such an intense loss. I don't know what propelled me to keep reading more since it just made me cry harder. Fernando was at the hospital and called me. This broke the cycle long enough for me to think. Then, like it was choreographed, my sleeping Tiago feel out of his bed. The fall woke him enough to let out a little whimper, but then he fell back to sleep. After all that I just read, I starred at my precious children. All asleep, peacefully breathing life in and out. I turned to check on Talia and a wave of gratitude fell over me. This feeling intensified as her little hand met mine. She knows that my arms are to pick her up and tries in her wordless ways to show me how much she wants to be held. Usually, I would let her fall back to sleep and be about my internet fixation, but not now. I held her and soaked in her soft, sweet smell and thought about how blessed I am to have her. I looked back at Mia and Tiago and remembered all my dumb mom moments. I thought of how many times I could have become one of those families with an "Angel Baby" because of my over confidence or lack of judgment. I thought of all the negative things I have done or said to those sweet kids and yet they keep loving me. I thought of all the sadness and hate and anger wasted for no good reason. Then I thought why wait. Why wait until it is too late to let people know how happy you are to have them in your life? Why wait until it is too late to treat people better?
I realize, of course, the truth found in Alma 34:34 "Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God. Nay, ye cannot say this; for that same spirit which doth possess your bodies at the time that ye go out of this life, that same spirit will have power to possess your body in that eternal world." In other words, the same spirit of peace or anger or whatever that I have been growing and cultivating for years can't change over night, but it can change and today is the day. (Comic Relief: Mia once astutely noted after I vocally proclaimed my desires to change and be a better mom that "You always say that mommy, but you don't do it.)
With that all said, I just wanted to make an incomplete, but heart felt appreciation to the wonderful family I have. We'll start with Fernando's side just because said so.
(And because I don't do a very good job letting them know how much I love and care for them. We totally have very different love languages)
PAPA JUAN
This picture speaks volumes. His smile is contagious and his smile lines prove how often he is spreading the love. His strength comes from years of unknown trials and trust in the Lord. He sacrifices much and works hard to give his children the best. He seems to know how to do everything and even if he doesn't, he is willing to try. I know that I drive him crazy at times, but he looks past my follies to find common ground. Thank you for being who you are and loving us.
MAMA CLARA
Behind this charming smile lies a faith and courage that is beyond motivating. She is always working whether it be embroidering a beautiful dress or cooking or teaching, she is always striving to improve herself and those around her. Fernando often talks about life changing conversations he had with her. Most recently he spoke of how much his confidence and self esteem came from how she thought about him and treated him. If you know Fernando, you know that means a whole lot. Thank you for all your considerate thoughts, prayers, and calls. Thanks for being an excellent example of thoughtfulness and tenacity.
AUNT TIRSA
Have you ever read the story "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein? Well, Tirsa is the tree. She generously gives of her time, talents, and money (lots of it) to anyone and everyone. She works behind the scenes trying to make everything run smoothly. She remembers important, sentimental details about people's lives and will often get some memento to match.
AUNT SULAY
This picture doesn't really capture her personality. She has an infectious laugh and smile (must run in the family). Her kind and gentle heart often sacrifices much to help those around her. She is the champion of underdogs (and might I add that something smells like updog in here). I had the lucky privilege of being at BYU with her and although I had actually been there for longer, Sulay knew everyone on campus. We could walk only a few steps before she would be smiling, conversing, concerning about someone we crossed paths with.
UNCLE DANIEL
Genius is an understatement, but so is Daniel. He never tries to be the center of attention, but will often pull people aside to talk to them. I have had many a conversations with him which he probably doesn't remember, but they were meaningful to me. I still remember when I first met him. He looked totally different, but still a cutie. He interrogated me the whole 2 plus hour drive home from the airport when I went to Fernando's farewell. My favorite part was when he asked me if I was going to marry his brother. Then he started saying my first name with his last name. "Rachelle Tovar, that doesn't sound really good. Neither does Daniel, but it's a lot better then Rachelle Tovar." Hopefully, he has changed his mind.
CROMAR FAMILY (my side, I'll keep it too the point as I have known them obviously longer then my in laws)
GRANDPA CROMAR
My dad has a veracious appetite for knowledge. The amount of information that he consumes is mind boggling as too is how he assimilates information for interesting conversations. He is tenderhearted and always looking for that perfect something. I still remember spending hours at the florist looking for the best flowers to wear on mother's day. He always bought us these delicate orchids even when we were in primary. I can only imagine him in the store shopping for my kids. He often will call to share his meaningful moments. Thank you for your trust and love.
GRANDMA CROMAR
My mother's strength and love have carried me through many a hard times. She will listen to understand my problems and then offer wisdom from the true source of all love and insight. She'll often quote scriptures and spiritual moments that pertain to the given situation and help shift my focus to one more positive and productive. She has sacrificed much of her time and energy. I still remember finding her curled up in a blanket waiting for us to return home. Thanks for your patience and love.
MY SIBLINGS AND THEIR FAMILIES
AUNT ANGELA AND UNCLE JOSH AND COUSIN LIAM (and bean 2)
So fun family to be around and yet we aren't often together. Josh and Angela are both very kind and generous. Angela is a woman that thinks all things are possible and listening to her, you believe that they are. She often will start up conversations with random strangers in hopes to make them feel better and that includes several homeless people. Josh has this fantastic laugh, which I want to call giggle but that is way too girly for him. And although one shouldn't be judged on their appearance, Josh has some sharp clothes and ties to knock your socks off. Thanks for loving my sister so much and being such a great dad to my little nephew and peanut.
UNCLE CHRIS, AUNT EMILY, ETHAN, AND BABY GIRL TO BE
Also fun family that lives way too far from me. Aside from the fabulous, but free hair hook up, Emily is fantastic at helping organize and structure even the most tangled situation. I must confess I have a love hate relationship with playing games with them. They try to dumb things down for me, but alas, they are just gamers who own things I have never even seen on Target's shelves. It's hard not to think about them this season, since they are more than fans of Christmas. Thanks for sharing you whit and cleverness with us (an hopefully a book. . .hint hint). Chris is the creative genius who can pull off such fantastic things like being the "Soul Train". Thanks for loving my sister so much and being such a great dad to my little nephew and soon to be neice.
UNCLE KEVIN AND AUNT LAUREN
This picture screams who they are. I am sure one day they will save the world and find world peace and discover the cure for the common cold among other things. They've perfected the art of showing interest in people. Their conversations are engaging and often make the speaker feel so intelligent. Kevin makes me laugh so hard, I often can't finish sentences (or prayers on some occasions.) Again, I wish we lived closer so we could bash around outdoors together. Thanks for being our babysitters at the most awkward and inconvenient times.
UNCLE LANCE AND AUNT AMY AND TEXAS
I am glad that I had this picture of them. Then you could all think that they aren't as good looking as they are. I often try to convince Amy that warm Texas is the place to be, but what can one do about this housing market. I love how dedicated and diligent they are. Both work full time and go to school. They often sacrifice much to meet their goals. Thanks for being a great example and move to TEXAS. You know you want to.
I realize, of course, the truth found in Alma 34:34 "Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God. Nay, ye cannot say this; for that same spirit which doth possess your bodies at the time that ye go out of this life, that same spirit will have power to possess your body in that eternal world." In other words, the same spirit of peace or anger or whatever that I have been growing and cultivating for years can't change over night, but it can change and today is the day. (Comic Relief: Mia once astutely noted after I vocally proclaimed my desires to change and be a better mom that "You always say that mommy, but you don't do it.)
With that all said, I just wanted to make an incomplete, but heart felt appreciation to the wonderful family I have. We'll start with Fernando's side just because said so.
(And because I don't do a very good job letting them know how much I love and care for them. We totally have very different love languages)
PAPA JUAN
This picture speaks volumes. His smile is contagious and his smile lines prove how often he is spreading the love. His strength comes from years of unknown trials and trust in the Lord. He sacrifices much and works hard to give his children the best. He seems to know how to do everything and even if he doesn't, he is willing to try. I know that I drive him crazy at times, but he looks past my follies to find common ground. Thank you for being who you are and loving us.
MAMA CLARA
Behind this charming smile lies a faith and courage that is beyond motivating. She is always working whether it be embroidering a beautiful dress or cooking or teaching, she is always striving to improve herself and those around her. Fernando often talks about life changing conversations he had with her. Most recently he spoke of how much his confidence and self esteem came from how she thought about him and treated him. If you know Fernando, you know that means a whole lot. Thank you for all your considerate thoughts, prayers, and calls. Thanks for being an excellent example of thoughtfulness and tenacity.
AUNT TIRSA
Have you ever read the story "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein? Well, Tirsa is the tree. She generously gives of her time, talents, and money (lots of it) to anyone and everyone. She works behind the scenes trying to make everything run smoothly. She remembers important, sentimental details about people's lives and will often get some memento to match.
AUNT SULAY
This picture doesn't really capture her personality. She has an infectious laugh and smile (must run in the family). Her kind and gentle heart often sacrifices much to help those around her. She is the champion of underdogs (and might I add that something smells like updog in here). I had the lucky privilege of being at BYU with her and although I had actually been there for longer, Sulay knew everyone on campus. We could walk only a few steps before she would be smiling, conversing, concerning about someone we crossed paths with.
UNCLE DANIEL
Genius is an understatement, but so is Daniel. He never tries to be the center of attention, but will often pull people aside to talk to them. I have had many a conversations with him which he probably doesn't remember, but they were meaningful to me. I still remember when I first met him. He looked totally different, but still a cutie. He interrogated me the whole 2 plus hour drive home from the airport when I went to Fernando's farewell. My favorite part was when he asked me if I was going to marry his brother. Then he started saying my first name with his last name. "Rachelle Tovar, that doesn't sound really good. Neither does Daniel, but it's a lot better then Rachelle Tovar." Hopefully, he has changed his mind.
CROMAR FAMILY (my side, I'll keep it too the point as I have known them obviously longer then my in laws)
GRANDPA CROMAR
My dad has a veracious appetite for knowledge. The amount of information that he consumes is mind boggling as too is how he assimilates information for interesting conversations. He is tenderhearted and always looking for that perfect something. I still remember spending hours at the florist looking for the best flowers to wear on mother's day. He always bought us these delicate orchids even when we were in primary. I can only imagine him in the store shopping for my kids. He often will call to share his meaningful moments. Thank you for your trust and love.
GRANDMA CROMAR
My mother's strength and love have carried me through many a hard times. She will listen to understand my problems and then offer wisdom from the true source of all love and insight. She'll often quote scriptures and spiritual moments that pertain to the given situation and help shift my focus to one more positive and productive. She has sacrificed much of her time and energy. I still remember finding her curled up in a blanket waiting for us to return home. Thanks for your patience and love.
MY SIBLINGS AND THEIR FAMILIES
AUNT ANGELA AND UNCLE JOSH AND COUSIN LIAM (and bean 2)
So fun family to be around and yet we aren't often together. Josh and Angela are both very kind and generous. Angela is a woman that thinks all things are possible and listening to her, you believe that they are. She often will start up conversations with random strangers in hopes to make them feel better and that includes several homeless people. Josh has this fantastic laugh, which I want to call giggle but that is way too girly for him. And although one shouldn't be judged on their appearance, Josh has some sharp clothes and ties to knock your socks off. Thanks for loving my sister so much and being such a great dad to my little nephew and peanut.
UNCLE CHRIS, AUNT EMILY, ETHAN, AND BABY GIRL TO BE
Also fun family that lives way too far from me. Aside from the fabulous, but free hair hook up, Emily is fantastic at helping organize and structure even the most tangled situation. I must confess I have a love hate relationship with playing games with them. They try to dumb things down for me, but alas, they are just gamers who own things I have never even seen on Target's shelves. It's hard not to think about them this season, since they are more than fans of Christmas. Thanks for sharing you whit and cleverness with us (an hopefully a book. . .hint hint). Chris is the creative genius who can pull off such fantastic things like being the "Soul Train". Thanks for loving my sister so much and being such a great dad to my little nephew and soon to be neice.
UNCLE KEVIN AND AUNT LAUREN
This picture screams who they are. I am sure one day they will save the world and find world peace and discover the cure for the common cold among other things. They've perfected the art of showing interest in people. Their conversations are engaging and often make the speaker feel so intelligent. Kevin makes me laugh so hard, I often can't finish sentences (or prayers on some occasions.) Again, I wish we lived closer so we could bash around outdoors together. Thanks for being our babysitters at the most awkward and inconvenient times.
UNCLE LANCE AND AUNT AMY AND TEXAS
I am glad that I had this picture of them. Then you could all think that they aren't as good looking as they are. I often try to convince Amy that warm Texas is the place to be, but what can one do about this housing market. I love how dedicated and diligent they are. Both work full time and go to school. They often sacrifice much to meet their goals. Thanks for being a great example and move to TEXAS. You know you want to.
Friday, December 5, 2008
The Funny Side of Organics
I don't even like Star Wars (I know. . .how un-American). This spoof on Star Wars has to be the funniest one I have ever seen.
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Thanksgiving Activities
Fernando and I have tried to find fun annual events for our family to participate in that don't revolve around food. The list of events are as follows:
Turkey Bowl: Usually put on by our church. I much say that I have my issues with such an event. Who thinks that it is a good idea for one's significant other to use the precious free time they have away from the home. Not the wife, that's for sure. Can you really hear the woman of the house saying "Don't worry. Even though I cleaned the house all week and taken care of the kids, I'll stay home and clean, cook, wrestle with kids some more while you go play with your friends. When you come home, take a nap and I'll get Thanksgiving squared away." If you can imagine that, you are either a man or a very understanding wife. I am neither so I chose not to stay home. So the kids and I go and watch Fernando use his cleats and receiver gloves. (Fernando is the one running to block for the QB. The fog in the background gave a "Rudy" feel to the whole event. Fitting since almost all the players were more like "Rudy" than anything else.)
Luckily there were other kids there this year and the weather was enjoyable. 
The donuts didn't hurt either. 
(Talia wishing she got some doughnuts)
Turkey Trot: This has been attempted in years past, but never achieved. This was our year. Fernando tried to hype people up by challenging them to certain athletic feats. Nothing says family fun more than beating someone in a push-up, sit-up, bicycle kicks, and lunge contest. (I won the lunge contest. And just to rub it in, I did an extra ten past the last standing man, Fernando.) With Fernando's sisters (Sulay and Tirsa) and Talia in the stroller, we headed out for a nice jog around the block. Fernando wanted a longer trot and forced us up our Cardiac Hill in our neighborhood. This proved to be a challenge to our weakened lunging legs, but prevented much after aches.
Turkey Chase: This came about as a fluke last year, but we brought it back again this year. The concept is simple--yank as many feather's off of everyone else's back. The trick is you have to strut around like a turkey while you do it. The feather's were a bit more artistic and it was fun having more people to chase.
Turkey Bowl: Usually put on by our church. I much say that I have my issues with such an event. Who thinks that it is a good idea for one's significant other to use the precious free time they have away from the home. Not the wife, that's for sure. Can you really hear the woman of the house saying "Don't worry. Even though I cleaned the house all week and taken care of the kids, I'll stay home and clean, cook, wrestle with kids some more while you go play with your friends. When you come home, take a nap and I'll get Thanksgiving squared away." If you can imagine that, you are either a man or a very understanding wife. I am neither so I chose not to stay home. So the kids and I go and watch Fernando use his cleats and receiver gloves. (Fernando is the one running to block for the QB. The fog in the background gave a "Rudy" feel to the whole event. Fitting since almost all the players were more like "Rudy" than anything else.)
Luckily there were other kids there this year and the weather was enjoyable. 
The donuts didn't hurt either. 
(Talia wishing she got some doughnuts) Turkey Trot: This has been attempted in years past, but never achieved. This was our year. Fernando tried to hype people up by challenging them to certain athletic feats. Nothing says family fun more than beating someone in a push-up, sit-up, bicycle kicks, and lunge contest. (I won the lunge contest. And just to rub it in, I did an extra ten past the last standing man, Fernando.) With Fernando's sisters (Sulay and Tirsa) and Talia in the stroller, we headed out for a nice jog around the block. Fernando wanted a longer trot and forced us up our Cardiac Hill in our neighborhood. This proved to be a challenge to our weakened lunging legs, but prevented much after aches.
Turkey Chase: This came about as a fluke last year, but we brought it back again this year. The concept is simple--yank as many feather's off of everyone else's back. The trick is you have to strut around like a turkey while you do it. The feather's were a bit more artistic and it was fun having more people to chase.
Sunday, November 30, 2008
First "First Thanksgiving" Play/A Girl After My Own Family's Heart
No money? No problem. With common household items you too can have hours of fun and entertainment. My sister's and I did everything from couch cushion houses to plays about all sorts of things. Because of my deep voice, I was always cast as the male. (You got to represent the other gender even if you don't have a real man to play the role. . .Kevin you weren't even born.)
Mia had lots of pre Thanksgiving fun at school and would update us daily on various facts and interesting tidbits of information. Somehow, we came up with the idea of putting on our own Thanksgiving play. Mia "wrote" the script and Tiago memorized his lines. I quoted wrote because she didn't actually write it down, though she probably could have. I didn't want her to agonize over trying to sound/spell out things like William Bradford (Tiago's character) and Plymouth Rock. I am working on the transcript if anyone is interested :)!
Mia painted the backgrounds, figured out appropriate actions, and thought of various ways Talia could participate. Unfortunately for Mia, but luckily for Talia, she was sleeping during the process so didn't have to be someone's papoose. I hope that Mia will want to make this a tradition. We'll have to work out a few kinks like the long wait between action scenes, but we have time.
WARNING: Long length, but pretty adorable especially for the relatives. Turn the volume up to hear the kids over the adoring audience.
Mia had lots of pre Thanksgiving fun at school and would update us daily on various facts and interesting tidbits of information. Somehow, we came up with the idea of putting on our own Thanksgiving play. Mia "wrote" the script and Tiago memorized his lines. I quoted wrote because she didn't actually write it down, though she probably could have. I didn't want her to agonize over trying to sound/spell out things like William Bradford (Tiago's character) and Plymouth Rock. I am working on the transcript if anyone is interested :)!
Mia painted the backgrounds, figured out appropriate actions, and thought of various ways Talia could participate. Unfortunately for Mia, but luckily for Talia, she was sleeping during the process so didn't have to be someone's papoose. I hope that Mia will want to make this a tradition. We'll have to work out a few kinks like the long wait between action scenes, but we have time.
WARNING: Long length, but pretty adorable especially for the relatives. Turn the volume up to hear the kids over the adoring audience.
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Tongue Taco
I have so much to blog about with Thanksgiving and Fernando's family being here, but not enough time at the moment. So for now, I will leave you with this video of me enjoying a little corn tortilla taco, with cilantro, onions and the meat of choice prepared by my Mother-in-law
(what's with my heinous hair. . . it needs to be figured out).
(what's with my heinous hair. . . it needs to be figured out).
Friday, November 21, 2008
RedBox Etiquette
When one uses the RedBox Terminal at any given grocery store, fast food joint, or neighborhood pharmacy, there are a few common courtesies that would make the world better for all. First, it isn't a movie store. Movie stores are built around the idea of browsing and finding many various movie options. At said movie store one can read the synopsis and ponder the age old question of "will this satisfy my mind numbing desires?" If you want to browse, head to blockbuster or better yet, do it online. Redbox allows you to view the various titles, read the plot, and even have it held for you at your nearest RedBox locations. That way when a mother of three needs to return their one movie, she doesn't have to painfully watch the indecisive bumblings of the customer in front of her all the while diverting the kids eyes from the gory/sexually explicit material glowing on front of the RedBox console.
Ok, may be there is only one common courtesy, but I keep running into the people who are unaware of life around them. Tonight being the worst with some lady returning 5 movies (a slow and tedious process, done one at a time) and trying to find her next 5 selections, but only ended up with four after flipping through the selection screens about 10 times and re-looking at the pictures on the console. Tiago did point out almost every foul movie there and described why it was a "yucky" movie. The Hulk got a bad review since it showed "his sacred body and he is mad". I did have the UN-satisfaction of giving a patronizing "you know it works a lot better if you check out the movies on line so they are held and waiting for you to slide your card and pop out just like that."
So Why do I keep tourturing myself with REDBOX? An outdoor (usually) kiosk containing "Easy $1 new release DVD rentals. No late fees. Rent and return at over 10,000 locations"
Ok, may be there is only one common courtesy, but I keep running into the people who are unaware of life around them. Tonight being the worst with some lady returning 5 movies (a slow and tedious process, done one at a time) and trying to find her next 5 selections, but only ended up with four after flipping through the selection screens about 10 times and re-looking at the pictures on the console. Tiago did point out almost every foul movie there and described why it was a "yucky" movie. The Hulk got a bad review since it showed "his sacred body and he is mad". I did have the UN-satisfaction of giving a patronizing "you know it works a lot better if you check out the movies on line so they are held and waiting for you to slide your card and pop out just like that."
So Why do I keep tourturing myself with REDBOX? An outdoor (usually) kiosk containing "Easy $1 new release DVD rentals. No late fees. Rent and return at over 10,000 locations"
Friday, November 14, 2008
Random Blessings
The picture is to highlight randomness. It has nothing whatsoever to do with this post except for the children are apart of the post too. This was taken the Fourth of July as we were leaving our ward picnic and found many frogs to pick up and play with. I did my best to look excited with the idea of bacteria riddled frogs in my children's fingers.
This past week has brought some unexpected blessings. First, a good friend, (we'll call her L. Westbrook or Lynn W.) let me in on a fantastic deal. End result: a free membership at the YMCA near us. And for those who had my scary concept of what YMCA's look like, set your minds at ease. It is a new facility that usually costs a whopping $80 to join. For some that is not very much, but for me it is. The childcare is pretty good and the Zumba class is heaven. (Zumba is a new term for a latin jazzercise class). Could there really be anything better then good latin music and dancing for and hour? Yes, it could also burn calories and tone some flabby jabby.
Miracle number two: Fernando has a pretty great schedule this month. He does take call every few days, but then has a whole day off. Shocking. Well, on one of these off days, we went to the gym, then headed to Costco, and finally back home just in time to pick up Mia from the bus. We decided to get our mail which is located around the corner from our house. Lazily, I pulled the car over to get the mail. Nothing was found. So, I jumped back into our 2006 Civic and expected to drive the block home. False. Yes, False! The car simply wouldn't start. Talia and Tiago were done being in the car which only added to the frustration. Fernando ran home and drove the 96 Corolla to jump our dead car. To no avail. A nice neighbor who we have waived to once or twice in passing, stopped his car to try and help. He seemed to be pretty well versed with cars and we felt that gut wrenching/wallet squeezing feeling that always accompanies the words "bad starter or faulty alternator".
It should be mentioned here, the military has a funny habit of mismanagement. Now, I don't mean to judge harshly since it is a large organization. Somehow every transfer there is a risk the the military can overpay you. Strange as it may seem, the thousands of transfers that are categorically similar sometime go a muck. Then after a few months and money spent finding the overpaid people, they take their money back. All of it, all at once. Yes, it happened to us. It just so happened that a few days before the car incident, they came and found $800 they wanted back from us. Why don't they use all those post transfer money finding people to just get things right the first time? Back to the car. . .
Fernando and I had the fantastic experience of pushing our car home. I really mean fantastic. Pushing a broken car has its own kind of charm and makes one feel like they could do anything. We rolled in into our driveway just in time to catch Mia from the bus.
I was so grateful that our car chose to die in front of our mail box and not a 30 minute drive away at the Costco parking lot just before Mia came home from school. I am glad I wasn't flying solo and cell phone-less with the kids when it happened. But, I never expected the blessing that came next.
Fernando spent over an hour checking all the fuses and found no hope. We prayed and prayed again. The kids prayed, we prayed all in hopes of figuring out what went wrong. I also prayed that we would wake up in time the next day and get ready quick enough to walk to school since there was no other option. Sure enough, we made it on time for school and I had the distinct feeling to call a Honda dealership. I explain our situation and then had to have the service man repeat the next part:
Quote "Mam, it sounds like your battery has died and it is still under warranty. We will pay a tow truck to get your car to our dealership, replace the battery at no cost to you and have it done by this afternoon."
True to his word, we have a well running car (the whole reason we bought the Honda Civic) and a new battery with a new 8 year warranty. This was also music to my ears since Texas is harsh on batteries and I was told to not be shocked if I only got two years out of my battery.
There are so many other little things, including gas for $1.86. It make Doctrine and Covenants 78:17-19 even more impressive.
"17 Verily, verily, I say unto you, ye are little children, and ye have not as yet understood how great blessings the Father hath in his own hands and prepared for you;
18 And ye cannot bear all things now; nevertheless, be of good cheer, for I will lead you along. The kingdom is yours and the blessings thereof are yours, and the riches of eternity are yours.
19 And he who receiveth all things with thankfulness shall be made glorious; and the things of this earth shall be added unto him, even an hundred fold, yea, more."
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Miscellanous Momments with Mia and School
I still can't believe that I have a daughter in school. She loves it and comes home frequently telling me how she "learns everything in school". She makes all sorts of hats like the K9 hat she made above for Fire Prevention Week. It just so happens she also made a poster about fire safety. She designed a poster called "Four" No Fires that had four drawings that showed what you could do for no fire. Her poster was put together 10 minutes before school and was a finalist in the school. To think what would have happened if she actually spent time on it.
About a month ago, I was invited to be a chaperon for a field trip to A Seussical Musical . I accepted before I thought through the logistics. Talia, a non bottle fed infant and Tiago a non babysat boy were not invited to attend. Luckily, two friends were willing to accept such a babysitting feat. Each had their own trial. Talia would nap for two of the 3 1/2 hours, but wake up hungry. Tiago screamed at the front door for at good hour plus before he warmed up to the scene. My bad. Good thing to have good friends. Everyone survived and I was glad that I went.
The play required some extensive understanding of multiple Seuss books. Luckily we had listened to recordings of such books many times on our drive from Maryland to Texas. It was good, but a little long for such little kids. After a lunch in the park and playing on the playground, Mia boarded her bus again and I came home to some happy campers and drained friends. Mia also just received an award for being "A Pillar of Trustworthiness". I had a hard time explaining what they meant by that award. I started with an analogy to wood that holds up the house and how that is like people supporting and lifting others and then just congratulated her for a job well done.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Our Age of Anxiety
How fitting it is to have elections so near to Halloween. A time of uneasiness and dare I say anxiety. I have been listening to a fantastic book called Age of Anxiety that deals with McCarthyism. So many events of the Red Scare parallel our national crisis of today. Regarding McCarthy's or any dictator like politician's increasing influence and power, the book states it "was not the rantings of Demigods, but fear in irresolution in honorable men." It also reaffirms the scriptures warnings of unrighteous leaders and therefore their unrighteous laws are nigh impossible to destroy. We are fortunate for sure to live in a society where we are free to vote. Even with the electoral college inadequacies and funky wording on the ballots, it is a blessing to give our say.
So after a pre-halloween party at our local library, I decided to be honorable and vote. Well, as honorable as one can look dressed in a cowgirl costume complete with chaps, a Thomas the train, kitty cat princess, and flower maiden.
Three kids in tow made for an interesting experience, but I did it. I starred for as long as possible at the Presidential Candidates in limbo over the decision. There was no clear choice for me. Each candidate had serious policy issues and I felt like it came down to decide between the lesser evil. 
Talia felt the agony keenly. This topic will proceed further in my personal journals. The important thing is I voted.
Monday, November 3, 2008
PUMPKIN PATCH
I forgot to mention the fun we had at a near by Church's "Pumpkin Patch". In TX, there are a noticeable absence of pumpkin fields so really it's just another place the semi's drop them off after they are done unloading them at the local supermarket. No bother. At least they were strewn all over the grass and surrounded by fun fall decor. Our first trip was with Tiago and Talia and a few friends.
Tiago picked out two medium size pumpkins for him and Mia and a tiny one for Talia. Tiago was loving all the pumpkins. 
He would pick up several and was curious how some had disgusting warts. (you and me both buddy) 
Right before we left, Tiago got a special chance to drive a cardboard tractor as shown here: 
Later we brought Mia to see the patch and bought our pumpkin at the commissary another day.
Funny, we kept meaning to carve our family pumpkin, but the kids go to bed by 6:30 pm. It makes for little time to do anything aside from homework, dinner, and get ready for the next day. Mia's pumpkin was carved and gutted at school in a science lesson. She wanted to let Tiago get in on the action. She kept telling him about the slime and seeds and guessed there were over one hundred in our family pumpkin. I attempted to carve Tiago's with a Lightening McQueen on it, but it was too small and just looked like a modern art piece with random holes. I just carved the family pumpkin with Mia Nov. 1 and we just opted to do a Thanksgiving one. We'll see how long it lasts. 
Mia's and Tiago's little pumpkins were moldy by day 2.
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